Spring is here – and yet we awoke to a virtual winter wonderland.
Two steps forward – one step back.
As parents, we see that a lot in a child’s development. Everything seems to be going well when, “oops”, we encounter some short-lived regression along the way. This can be frustrating to parents, as their child perhaps begins to wake up repeatedly in the night, pee their pants, whine and want to be carried, become afraid of the bath – all after months of independent practice.
But take heed – just as we accept the vagaries of nature – the cold front slipping down from the north causing this spring storm, we need to expect and accept these setbacks in development when they occur, and meet your child where he/she is right at that moment.
Usually a regression in a child reflects a developmental leap, some stress, or change in his life that is troubling him. It could be a nightmare that he had, a scary video he watched at a cousin’s house, not enough sleep, a new house, a new bed, an ear infection, traveling, sibling issues, or just needing some more and deeper connection with you.
It’s best to meet this in a positive way. Ignore focusing on the regression and, instead, give the extra love, patience, and attention to your little one.
And just as the snow will melt, the sun will come out and the daffodils sprout in our neighborhoods after this little detour toward spring, your children will feel your warmth and acceptance, and bloom – once again – in their own way and time.