I overheard a co-worker talking to her upset pre-teenage daughter on the phone at the end of the day. “I’ll be right there”, she said.
“I’ll be right there.” Something about those words kept floating around in my head. I even jotted them down. They seemed to be so simple, so ordinary, yet felt so significant in the moment.
I think those words mean that ” I matter”, that “I’m cared for”, that “I’m safe”. I think those words translate love, security, trust. I think they mean we’re in touch.
I think that’s what this young girl probably felt.
For as parents, the most significant gift we can give our children is our presence.
But when we can’t, we can still convey the strength of our caring.
Our adult daughter lives out East so we talk a lot on the phone. When she is mulling over things and ideas, decisions in her life, I’m often an ear and means for her to sort things out. Many times when we are saying good bye, I tell her, remind her, “Well, I’m here” – in case she wants to talk more.
One night I got an e-mail, a one-liner, saying “Thanks for always saying “I’m here”.
“I’ll be right there” – “I’m here” – emotional presence, emotional connections.