I didn’t think about it until after we said good-bye.
We had been visiting our son and family by video one evening. As is the case, our 3-year-old grandson held the limelight – entertaining, singing, playing his ukulele, showing us things.
Often during our times like this, he’ll ask me, “read one of the books from your house to me”.
This was one of those times.
I hesitated. His parents both said it was time to say good night and go to bed. But – as so many 3-year-olds would do, he persisted in asking me to read.
And as so many grandmas would do, I waffled.
I said “I could – I would – if Mommy and Daddy say it’s okay”. Wow – I had just joined forces with the three-year-old, knowing full well what his parents wanted to happen.
But his Daddy – in spite of my waffling, gently yet firmly said, “no – not tonight. Say good night. It’s time for bed.”
And it was.
And later I thought about the slippery slope there is into “butting” in to parental needs and decisions..
And I also knew – we had had enough time, a good time, and it was time to end. His parents knew it – and despite pleas to continue, they matter-of-factly said “say good night.”
And I was very impressed.
As so many of you will be spending the holidays with extended families, it is expected that routines are bound to be altered somewhat. But when you know it’s time, when you want – need – something to change, to begin, to end for your children – just say it – do it.
As parents you get to make the calls, set the pace.
And the relatives?
They get to be impressed!