Monthly Archives: January 2018

back on track

Is  it just wishful thinking – or is this winter almost over?   January is all but done, then February’s upon us – and then there’s March – announcing the first day of Spring.

Wow!  It’s practically summer!

But …I know- I know.  February, the shortest month can sometimes seem the longest.

And – anyhow – why am I wishing the days away?

As parents, though, haven’t we all sometimes been guilty of doing just that about our children?  Instead of appreciating the infant nighttime- feeding stage – or relishing the 18-month-old “on the go” run – or understanding (and admiring perhaps) the 3-year-old “defiant” stage – we wonder when does this stage end, can’t wait until.

And then  for sure – we  end up missing the meaningful moments that are the present.

There are so many things that we do hurry through, complain about, dread, only to realize later, they are gone, and this time will not be repeated.

It only takes little things to get us back on track.

Just at Great Clips, for instance, I observed two adorable young brothers, hair slicked down from fresh cuts, sitting and waiting for their older brother to be finished, playing a “game” on their mom’s phone.  They leaned into each other, laughed, shared so compatibly.

And I thought “What a moment!”

(and, yes, I couldn’t help myself – I did tell their mom when she came over what I noticed!)

So – okay, February, bring it on.  I’m ready to appreciate every one of your 28 days – and March too!

Spring and summer are sure to come.  But in the meantime, I’m going to look for and appreciate what marvelous moments the present holds.

Thanks, boys!

 

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love…

It was one of those moments that I cherish as a Parent Educator – witnessing the struggles and joys that parents experience with their children.

This one was so sweet – so personal – this sharing from a dad who showed up with his 4-month-old daughter and 3-year-old son at Play Shoppe this week.

This dad has been a regular participant with his son,  but this was his first time back with both children in tow. We talked about the challenges of juggling life with an infant and a busy 3-year-old boy.

He admitted he had been so nervous about having a daughter. “What do I know about girls?  My experience with the opposite sex was during dating and it was wrought with stress and anxiety.  “Will she like me?  Am I cool enough?  How do I look? What should I say? How should I act?”

“But this little girl – she just loves me so much – and I don’t have to even do or be anything and she loves me.”

Oh my – such a pure, tender, honest moment it was!

But concern over being the right fit for your child is so very common.  I can’t say how many expectant woman I hear comment “what will I do if it’s a boy – I don’t know anything about boys!”

Only to find out – just as this dad did – yes, you do know just what you need to know.

Love is what it’s all about.

Yes!

 

 

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ah yes

There’s much to be said about gratitude.

I think when a new year is beginning, many of us vow to be more grateful – to appreciate our families and friends more – to be content with the things we have in our lives that bring us joy.

As parents, even with the best intentions, however, we sometimes get lost instead in the details – in all the things that need to be done, that don’t get done, that we wish could be changed.

So our days – as full as they are – are often only described as “crazy”, “hectic”, “OMG what a day” with a strong hint of exhaustion and distress attached

This year I received a sweet little journal that’s called “favorite moment a day” journal.

I love it!

For there’s twenty-four hours in each day to think about.  And stuck in even the most tiring “crazy” day, there has to be a moment – a moment that deserves to be remembered, felt, appreciated, cherished.

For a moment can be as simple as a conversation, a smile, a lovely cup of tea, the precious grin your toddler gives you when he wakes up from his nap,a friend’s phone call, a teenager’s unexpected hug , a neighbor’s warm response to your children playing in their yard, making all the green lights when running late to work, siblings happily engaged in pretending and “dress -up”, a quiet moment when you stand at the window and gaze at the cardinals at the bird feeder.

You fill in the rest.

For you don’t need a little journal like mine to do this.  It can just become a part of your day, a gift to yourself, by spending a few minutes being mindful – being grateful for those moments – for that one moment perhaps, that makes us say “Ah yes!”

“Ah yes, indeed!”

 

 

 

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a golden opportunity

There’s nothing like the coziness of reading a book together with a  child .

Snuggled close, the repetition of the often very familiar words and pictures surround us and become our own private world.

Priceless!

I was so fortunate to read so many books over the holiday week with our 3-year-old grandson, Theo, and those moments resonate with me still.

Most everyone knows the educational value of reading with children of any age.  It increases vocabulary, shares knowledge, provides appreciation of words, grows imagination, and the ability to concentrate and retain information.

They  say children are made readers on the laps of their parents. (and grandparents!)

But I believe reading also mends and connects us.

When we are in need of a “repair” after a particularly challenging morning, a melt-down tantrum from just “too much”, a missed nap, a difficult exchange, hurt feelings, or” just because” – “let’s read a book together” can heal.

Try it.  You’ll feel it working!

So take advantage of the new extended hours at our local library and branches.  New books are always welcomed.  Old books are like special friends.

“I will defend the importance of bedtime stories to my last gasp.”  J.K. Rowling.

“Me too!” 

And any other time little spirits need to feel the warmth, joy and connection that reading together brings.

A golden opportunity for everyone.

 

 

 

 

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