“Have you noticed that we haven’t been complaining lately about our mattress?” I asked my husband recently.
He agreed – and it’s true – that same mattress that bothered us for months after purchasing it – that just didn’t reach our expectations – now was seeming very comfortable.
People had told us it takes time for the mattress to settle in and adjust- to conform to our sleeping styles. They were right.
And that observation led me to consider a parenting parallel.
For isn’t that the way it happens with the stages our children go through – especially the challenging developmental ones.
Think of the early days of infancy, night-time feedings, diaper changes, crying, teething. Consider the toilet learning stage, learning to share, screaming fits, messy mealtime behavior, teasing, bedtime struggles, whining , tantrums, favorite word NO.
As new parents, this isn’t always what we expected.
Yet somehow, these sorts of behaviors somehow seemingly disappear – and we are left thinking – wow – remember when?
So, just as that new mattress of ours conformed to us and our sleeping comfort, it is kind of the same for us as parents.
Our children are watching us – modeling after us — as we eat, sleep, take care of ourselves, work, play, share, talk, love, believe .
And that’s how they grow, adjust, conform – how they become who they are, comfortable in their own way.
And that’s when you may get to sleep soundly too.