Praise publicly – Correct privately.
I found that on a sticky note recently in my scheduling book.
As I recall it was something I read in a flier about work-related behavior – but it resonated with me, because I thought it could be so applicable to parenting also.
How respectful – a tap on your child’s shoulder – “come with me for a second” and between the two of you – make this connection and say what needs to be said.
We’ve all experienced this – out in public – or at a family and friends gathering, when we sense our child’s frustration, stress, needs, excitement escalating.
Perhaps it’s playing too roughly with younger children, or using outdoor voices indoors – or wildly chasing past the adults in the room. Maybe you want to remind an older child to put his/her phone away and be present.
Your child will appreciate not being embarrassed in front of others. For young children, it will provide a few minutes to relax.
It’s modeling respectful behavior as we ask for respectful behavior from them.
So … come with me for a minute.