Ceremony – when it happens, you can feel it – sense it- breathe it.
But ceremony doesn’t happen all that often in our busy day-to-day lives.
But it could.
Actually, you can create a sense of ceremony just by simply lighting a candle at dinner once a week – holding hands around the table for a moment of silence – end with a squeeze gently passed hand to hand.
Believe it or not, your children will be responsive to this quiet pause in their lives.
A few weeks ago we went to a reunion of a school that our family was involved in in the Seventies. Ceremony was present.
It was there in the memories and gratefulness shared as our large group stood in a circle, and one by one revealed what Riverhaven School in Winona, Mn meant to them – as children, as now-grown adults, as teachers, as former parents.
Speaking with a dear friend from Connecticut recently whom I taught with years ago, we got on this subject of ceremony.
My friend has been a nursery school teacher for 40 years – seasoned and passionate still.
She shared that when the children in her class are moving on at the end of the year, she gathers them in a circle. She has a velvet box – and in the box is a firm rock.
The rock is carefully passed from child to child as their teacher shares something about that particular child – unique to each.
She told me that there is perfect silence in this group of 4’s and early 5’s as they sit , wide -eyed, listening attentively to what is being shared about each child – as they wait for their own turn.
My friend said a few other faculty who witnessed this power of ceremony were speechless.
I believe it.
That’s kind of how ceremony leaves you.