Who doesn’t want that feeling of being included – a part of a group – a part of a family – a part of the plans.
A mom who recently moved to this area from a very long distance was sharing that when she and her husband were making their moving plans and finalizing the details together, their young 3 -year-old, listening nearby, spoke up hopefully, “Can I come too?”
This mom felt terrible that he would ever feel so left out about such a big move.
Not taking anything for granted, however, this little guy thought he’d better speak up.
Our children really do want to know how and where they fit into our plans – whether it is a big move, a week-end trip, a night at Grandma’s, or a morning baby-sitting- exchange with a friend.
But, certainly, telling your child too much too soon – before details are worked out – can be confusing and stressful.
Best to wait till plans are set for sure. Then the news can be shared at the dinner table for all to hear – quietly at bedtime – while taking a walk – giving a child a bath – over breakfast – whenever there is time and space to share and answer questions.
This kind of inclusion lets everyone – little to big – know “they can come too“.