Are the moods in your house these days a bit like the weather outside- a bit gray, dull, and gloomy?
Well, here’s an easy, doable prescription to add some light – some glee to those moods.
(glee – great delight.)
Get down on the floor with your children – tumble – whoop – grab – hold – laugh – toss them around -chase.
Because after all the years parents (dads especially) have been doing things like this, psychologists and child care experts now tell us – good for us, keep it going.
It seems rough-housing, chasing, catching, tumbling is all positive for our children’s brains and for their emotional stability – and for the good endorphins released in all of us when playing in this way!
Think back to when you were a child. Anyone remember being swung upside down, riding the “horsey”, or climbing on your parent who is pretending to be asleep on the floor – until – watch out – he isn’t!!
In our busy uncertain world, play like this helps to release the stress and anxiety of the day for each of us – and increases trust and connection with each other. It also encourages self-control and being fair and listening if someone says stop.
I’ve talked with parents over the years about their child’s behavior who have looked at me with surprise when I’ve asked them “How often do you wrestle on the floor with your child – or chase them and try to capture them- and in the meantime shriek and giggle and shout – exhaling built-up stress and worry – exhaling anger and sadness and fears.”
This advice just seemed right at the time, seemed powerful – and now we know that it is.
So if this type of play is missing these days in your family life, take note.
“A good day” a parent of a two- and- a- half- year- old little girl told me “is when we have only two or three tantrums. That’s a good day.”
This mom, like many parents of young children was stressed and concerned and frustrated and thinking something must be wrong with her child or with herself.
But what we don’t always recognize as parents is that building emotional control and maturity takes time – and just like any other developmental steps a young child takes as he grows, it doesn’t happen over night.
And if a young child is tired, hungry, frustrated, rushed, denied, inactive for too long – a temper tantrum could be brewing.
So yes, temper tantrums are a part of early childhood.. But there are ways to prevent them, to understand why they happen, and to know what to do when they happen. This mom and her toddler are not unique. It is all part of the developing child as he/she learns to cope.
So – want to know more? Want to come up with solutions and leave with a personal plan to help prevent tantrums and manage them when they occur?
This is what we’ll be doing at The Parenting Place on Wednesday, February 5th from 9:00 AM – 11:00 AM at our Temper Tantrum discussion group. Childcare is provided for independent walkers. Younger children can remain in the room with parents.
Come find out you’re not alone. Figure out what might be turning on tantrums in your child – and how to help avoid them – while meeting both your child’s needs and your own.
Come find out how to have many more good days.
Registration is required – but easy! Call 608-784-8125 or email firstname.lastname@example.org . Any questions, call PE Fran – 784-8125, EXT. 216.
Sometimes you come across a person that likes to help – that can be counted on to get the job done – and done well. Sometimes you come across a person that brightens everyone’s day with a cheerful vim and vigor that just makes you feel good.
At The Parenting Place we’ve been fortunate to have a person just like that – Barb Ryan who has worked at The Parenting Place as a Childcare Certification Assistant for seven and a half years.
Perhaps many of you won’t know Barb. She never sought attention – yet was always busy in the background. But if you were fortunate enough to meet her on duty at the front desk – or passed her in the hall – you will remember her.
Barb met every participant who ever walked in our door with the same grace, bright humor, and hospitality she has shown to all of us.
But as Barb has told us, it’s time. It’s time for her to retire, to take the time for herself (yes, Barb, yourself!) and enjoy family and friends.
And with her leaving, The Parenting Place will definitely miss Barb’s caring consideration and abundant energy, her bright and sassy personality, and the light she’s spread amongst us.
Thank you, Barb!
You will be missed.
There’s a new study in town.
We’ve all probably heard about the healing benefits that being outside provides. But in a recent large-scale study from the University of Exeter in England, researchers have established that just two hours a week spent out-of-doors – I repeat – two hours a week – will help all of us physically, mentally and emotionally.
And to make it even more simple, more doable- this time does not need to be one long stretch but can be taken in small increments adding up to 120 minutes out of our week.
In case you don’t actually know the benefits of spending time outside, it is pretty much a magic potion – enhancing our moods, our mental and physical health, reducing stress, and giving us all a lovely sense of well-being.
Parents often tell me how irritable their children are at the end of their school day. We know that often some of that is low blood sugar and they are hungry and need a good snack. But see what happens if you use a bit of these 120 minutes for some running and playing and just being out of doors after school, and see if the moods improve.
This really is a prescription for a healthy family. And I know there always seems to be one more thing that is expected of us. But I believe, this one is simple, doable and will bring so much to the health, behavior, and well-being of our families if we just give it a try.
So – are you with me?
Are you ready to take two?