A parent who I’ve met with several times emailed me recently how things were going with her six-year- old daughter.
“It feels good to say there is a specific time for that.”
And “that” for her has made all the difference. And “that” for her happened to be screen time.
Previous to this mom holding her ground – there was continual whining, yelling, tantrums and begging at any moment of the day. Both of them were worn-out and their relationship not very positive.
I believed this young girl was asking her mom to draw the line – begging her mom to draw the line for her – a line she could not manage on her own.
When mom decided that everyday at the same time, this young girl could have screen time, her daughter felt settled – the constant requests and bickering stopped.
And for the mom – she felt empowered by the realization – the thunderbolt she said – that sometimes kids need to know – want to know – that this adult in their life is in charge – in a firm, kind wise way.
This is so valuable to consider at this time of long days home with our children. Sticking to a daily rhythm offers children a sense of well-being which helps regulate their emotions and peace of mind – as well as our own.
A child’s routine then becomes the palette that other choices and expectations are blended in – and – at times like this, a home routine is particularly significant, particularly comforting.
Rhythm of the day – rhythm of your family.
If you have any concerns or questions about finding that rhythm in your family or any parenting questions, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will get back to you by email or by phone if you share your number.