Recently a grandma shared with me her Covid Zoom relationships with her absent grand-daughters.
She was giving them cooking lessons.
They were all connecting (even though in different households), learning, laughing, and eating whatever they made – omelets and memories – at the same time.
Now this same grandma actually has one of her grand-daughters – thirteen-years-old, staying with her for the summer. Last I heard, she was teaching her how to clean a bathroom!
At the right time, with a fun spirit – our children (or grand-children) are open to gaining new skills – some “let me show you” moments.
Another sharing – a young girl who just turned six years old – surprised her mom who often, in a hurry, just dumps the whole load of clothes from the dryer onto her bed. This young industrious child has taken to carefully folding all the laundry and then … even delivering it to its rightful owner’s room.
This I was told was a skill – the skill of folding items – also learned from her own grandmother.
I guess my point is – chores aren’t chores unless we make them so. Often I think, as parents, we assign the most simple (read boring) jobs to our children – if we do so at all.
Expectations – sharing – inclusion – enjoying – trust – reaching our children at the right age – starting earlier than we might think to – making it positive, casual, connecting and personal.
It’s not like we’re handing our young children a Chore List. It’s more like partnering – and sharing a skill that boosts their confidence.
“Let me show you how to…” “I bet you’re able to pour the milk now”, “sweep the floor”, “wipe up the bathroom sink”, “maybe even vacuum”.
“Want to try?”
And then – watch their competence develop.
A true growth spurt in so many ways.